Bachelorette weekend was a blast. It was lovely to finally be able to connect faces with names I've been hearing for six years. We stayed at a Bed and Breakfast in Old City which I was hoping was haunted. Actually, I'm pretty sure it was haunted because the key to our room would only work for Chambers. Spirits, I tell you! Spirits!
We had an amazing dinner at Cochon followed by a night out with the boys. We'd spent the day just walking around the city enjoying the gorgeous weather. It was surreal walking blocks I had walked most days for four years. And the caliber of the homeless has improved. One man asked me for change and promised to pay me back. How nice of him. You don't hear that everyday from a panhandler.
Sunday was spent shopping at the mecca known as King of Prussia, dinner for eight at Max Brenner (chocolate martini anyone?) then out again with the boys. That was when things got interesting. We found out that my best friend's ex was at the bar we first planned to go to so we went somewhere else. Personally I would have loved the opportunity to smack his ex (I promised to use an open hand!) but really? It wasn't worth it.
See, the person who gave us the heads up told us the ex was wasted and had just learned my bff had defriended him on Facebook and he wanted to know why. The dude is none too observant because this defriending happened A YEAR AND A HALF AGO. Really? Really??? Wow. Look, Facebook is a nice way to stay connected but that's taking it way too seriously.
We were talking about the situation and my friend was saying that yes, the ex is rather demented but if he hadn't had the relationship he wouldn't have met a lot of the people he's close friends with today. And that, my friends, is a classic case of knowing you're over someone. When you can look back at ended relationships, whether they be romantic or platonic, and see the good that came out of it, you know that you're well and truly over it.
It's a really nice place to be. I've been thinking about it ever since it happened on Sunday. Thinking about past friendships and relationships and genuinely hoping that the person in each situation is happy. Because EVERYONE deserves to be happy. And if they couldn't find happiness with me, then I genuinely hope they are or were able to find the happiness they deserve with someone else. Holding grudges is pointless. It's EXHAUSTING. Sure it takes time to get over things and there's no timetable dictating when you should be over something or someone. But eventually you have to let it go. Because, as we say, everyone deserves La La Land. Their own happy ending. Probably you won't know if it ever happens for them but you can always hope.
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